Valentine’s Day, a day considered by many to be the most romantic day of the year. But while this day may be a day of romantic love, perhaps it is more interesting to consider an even greater love. Of course I, as a Christian, believe God’s love to be the greatest love in existence; however, merely making such claims is a rather overused approach. Even though so many Christians preach it, it is something incredibly difficult to truly explain. Praising God’s love will only go so far before common sense leads us to wonder how God could possibly love us with so many apparent inconsistencies. Instead, I’d like to make a comparison, one sometimes made in jest but rarely in seriousness. That is God’s love and love of a yandere.
Let me begin by saying if you have never gone outside the manga/anime mediums, you most likely have a very skewed image of what a yandere truly entails. Sure, there have been characters who display a few yandere characteristics, and there are a few examples of more accurate yandere making their way into anime. Perhaps Yuno or Kanade come to mind, or maybe one very infamous nice boat. However, the truth is the really hardcore yandere do not exist in anime, most likely because what they do can’t actually be shown on TV. The visual novel medium, on the other hand, has its share of legitimate yandere. Not that I have read many as I tend to shy away from them myself, but I have heard some tales and they are quite extreme. Regardless, while a yandere may be incomparable to God at a literal level, the love that it holds might just be something more similar to God’s than at first glance.
First, I actually see this comparison made as a joke every now and then, that God is jealous and so are yandere, thus God is a yandere. Indeed! Christians often forget that while God is all loving, He himself is the one who stated “I am a jealous God.” God will not stand for having other gods before him. He is completely willing to, and has done so in the past, strike down false gods with full force to get you to turn back to Him. Yandere, too, are completely okay with disposing of anything or anyone who might get in the way of her love for you. Jealousy is certainly a common factor between the two, whether you make that statement as a joke or not.
Secondly, stemming from a love of extreme proportions, they make very similar claims. They will love you forever. They will protect you from any harm. And more uniquely, they will always forgive you. While the first one is a simple and basic claim, the other two are increasingly less so, especially when it comes to action. While regular lovers may want to protect each other, it is sometimes hard to put into action; however, a yandere will not hesitate in any situation to not only protect you but also eliminate all your enemies who threaten you harm (from her perspective…). God too will protect you as well as fight against your enemies for you. In fact, both are willing to die for your sake, if it means saving and protecting you from harm.
But even more interesting is the common point of always willing to forgive. For any normal love, there is going to be some breaking point that cannot be forgiven. However, for a yandere, her love will never die, so she is also always willing to forgive, no matter what you do. All you have to do is honestly ask her forgiveness and she will certainly forgive, although there might be a small price to pay. It is certainly an extreme form of love to forgive anything that a person does, and this parallels God’s love for us. The important part is not that the two will forgive you regardless of what happens but that they are willing to forgive. In both cases, there is a need for repentance and inquiry for forgiveness. A yandere is not going to show restraint in her wrath should you refuse to apologize. In the same way, if we act on the assumption that we do not need to perform this repentance because of God’s boundless love, we are terribly mistaken.
But these are perhaps rather unconvincing comparisons. While I have no penchant toward yandere (I’m more of a tsundere person), I also do not find them as bad as many haters do. What this most often comes down to is the ability, or willingness, to understand things from the yandere’s perspective and accepting their logic and thought process as reasonable, to an extent. In the end, no matter how much a yandere will love and forgive and accept you regardless of any of your seemingly faults, they just can’t stop from doing the most disturbing and insane actions. Whether that’s murdering your friends or family or locking you up in their basement or “other” things, yandere are essentially crazy girls with a murderous obsession for a particular person. However, it is also true that despite this, they are doing it with your best interests in mind. Certainly, that may be the reasoning of a lunatic, but they are nevertheless being quite honest. Because in their minds, they really are protecting you from harm, getting rid of “unnecessary distractions” and she is the only one needed to bring you absolute happiness.
If there is only one thing wrong with this logic, it is that yandere don’t actually know what is best for you. If they could see the future and actually know what would make you happiest, they would probably do it (actually they wouldn’t be able to handle the truth and would mentally break down even further, become crazier, and corrupt that fact into something completely different in order to reach a happiness acceptable to them. But for the sake of argument, let’s continue). The reason I don’t quite mind yandere is because they really do believe their actions are for your best. Their thinking is distorted but their motivation is honest and, dare I say, pure. And I think this disconnect between claims and actions presents a similar problem in Christianity. What God says and what happens to our lives often do not match up. People get frustrated with that or use that as proof that God never existed in the first place. However, it is important to realize that the logic God uses is never going to match our own. God looks at the future and your spiritual health as opposed to the present and your physical health. To make some semblance of sense, it is important to try to view things from His view, just as viewing things from a yandere’s perspective can show how honest she is being.
One very common question of Christianity is “if God is so good, then why is there suffering?” or some variant. I won’t address that exactly, and I admit I can’t. However, a more specific version might be, “if God loves me, then why is my life so bad?” particularly from Christians. I specifically address Christians because God refraining from showering non-believers with blessings and happiness is at least logically sound and acceptable. Even if I don’t believe in such an absolute, “it makes sense,” whereas the former does not.
Yandere cause their beloved great suffering using the excuse “it is for your best,” but being human, they cannot possibly know that for certain. An omniscient God would. Oftentimes there is suffering, trials, and overall unwanted things happening in our lives. Some things are not directly caused by God, but some things are. While the difference may be impossible to distinguish, the root of the question remains: “if you love me, why?” Incidentally, the common answer given by Christians (which for the record, I feel doesn’t help the ones in question at all) is something like “because God knows what’s in your best interest at the end of the hard road.” I won’t claim the logic is infallible, and I am not using this as evidence that God’s love is real. However, I will say that the answer is the same in both God’s case and a yandere’s. With little regards to your current opinion, a yandere will execute whatever is necessary to ensure what will lead to (what she believes) your greatest happiness. A yandere will make baseless excuses, whereas an all-powerful God, whether you believe in His existence or not, can certainly make good on that claim.
There is one more very interesting comparison between the two. If, in the end, you refuse to accept a yandere’s love, she will almost certainly kill you. She will use an excuse like “it’s your fault for not accepting me,” yet despite this, she really will continue to love you. The logic here appears to be nonsensical and merely a convenient plot narration to make the character seem extra insane. Strangely enough, this is the same as one seemingly paradoxical thing about Christianity. If you don’t accept Christ, God condemns you to hell, even though He loves you. If God really loves you so much, why would he send you to hell just because you didn’t believe in Him? To answer that would go into technical spiritual details beyond the scope of this post. My point here is merely that this comparison is surprisingly similar. While the logic may still not be comprehensible, yandere somehow are a very concrete and accurate representation of this paradoxical aspect of Christianity. God doesn’t want to send you to hell, but if you refuse His love, He will, but He will also be saddened by it.
So is God a yandere? Even though I’m the one making this comparison, I wouldn’t say God fits that term, and any human constructed comparisons to God break down at some point. However, God’s love is supposed to be the most amazing and incomprehensible love in existence. The normal human language is incapable of even beginning to describe that kind of love, and even many believers struggle with understanding it. Indeed, there are many things about God that do not line up with our image of what “perfect love” would be like to the point of sounding contradictory. To get a little closer to understanding what that love might be like, I think one needs an extreme form of love to compare it to, one that is beyond the common sense of society, and yandere is certainly one of the most extreme loves in fiction. It is this extreme form of love that makes yandere a more accurate representation of God’s love than the romanticized ideal love that society lauds. God may not be a yandere, but it’s because his love is an even more extreme and perfected version of it. While we may never be able to truly understand God’s love in this lifetime, perhaps comparing Him to a yandere and trying to reason through a yandere’s logic will help with understanding God’s actions and love for us.